If you are reading this, and fit the situation, then the subject is already a consideration on your mind.

You may have read something on the subject, spoken to a girlfriend who has passed through the experience recently, and heard about it in school. We hope to help you here, with a short guide. It is for you.

First of all, you must feel it is the correct thing to do. You must NOT be pressured into it, or the experience will fail to bring you the pleasure and good memories you expect and deserve. You are in charge of your life and body. You must really feel ready for it.

If you have been masturbating, you probably had clitoral orgasm, so you know what is possible in terms of feelings. You must also, know your own anatomy.

You know you have some outer lips that cover the vulva, and some inner lips which are very flexible. If your hymen is intact, you are also going to tear that, with the accompanying sensations and bleeding. Find out.

In the second consideration, do not have sex if you have over-drunk alcohol. You can become drunk and lose a great deal of your judgment after even one drink.

The third consideration is INSISTING on the use of a condom with your partner. The reasons for this are well known, and certainly there is no excuse for not using it. You must be protected. This is a health concern, a very good way to prevent conception, and generally a good idea as it will help to slow down your partner by desensitizing him a bit.

So to begin.

You cannot have too much foreplay. This should take the form of mutual kissing, erotic massaging, exploring each other’s bodies, seeing where each of you are sensitive and have erogenous spots. Don’t rush. It will be over soon enough as it is.

All the while as you have foreplay, your womb will be producing the all important moisture that is required. Believe us, the wetter the better. You cannot be too wet for the first time. If you are a bit adventurous, ask you partner to give you cunnilingus, and if you can, give to your partner some fellatio. These are wonderful signs of showing affection.

Getting into it.

Make sure after your foreplay (and perhaps fellatio) put on the condom if you haven’t already. The partner may make the first move to go directly into the standard missionary position. Bad idea. It is the worst position to lose your virginity. You are not in control, and it will be more painful and you cannot do anything but lay there and take it.
Instead, try the girl on top position. Here you are in control. Your vagina has never had anything in it before (like a penis) and it must accommodate it slowly…and it will.

If you are losing you hymen, you are the one determining the speed and pressure with which it occurs. You will not suffer, and if you are still not wet enough, you can apply some water-based vaginal lubricant (such as K-Y). The deed is soon done, and you can get down to thrusting.

At first, have your partner move without thrusting, just applying pressure while fully inserted in your vagina. As it begins to feel natural, you can your self start thrusting.

At this point you can change positions (assuming your partner has lasted) and go onto your back. However, do not settle for the simple missionary position, but tilt your pelvis slightly up, and ask your partner to suspend himself on his arms and not lay on you…this when thrusting will stimulate both your clitoris and G-spot.

There are a lot of variables here, but lose you virginity as we suggest, and you will have in your mind pleasant memories instead of feeling unfilled, or used.

So you’ve found the cutest new outfit you want to wear to school. It shows off all your pretty curves and reveals a lot of skin. You know you look good.

You go to school. The teachers have either sent you home because you are revealing too much, or they have told you to put on a jacket or sweater. “It’s not fair!” you say. “Guys can wear anything they want but girls can’t!”

Girls, guys can’t help but see sex in the clothes that you wear. What may be a cute style for you is really a difficult temptation for the guys. Something happens to a guy’s brain and they can no longer focus on what an incredible young lady you are. They no longer are drawn to you because of your personality, your sense of humor, or your intellectual prowess. All they see is your body.

A guy once shared with me that it is hard to have a conversation with a girl when her breasts are staring him in the face. He would rather get to know the girl behind the tank top. But if a girl wants nothing but a physical relationship with a guy, then by all means, wear the skimpy barely there clothing, because he will never get to know the real you.

Females want intimacy. Intimacy requires conversation and getting to know one another. How you dress can effect how well a guy will work to get to know you. In fact, many guys would rather get to know the girl and leave the rest to be discovered at another time.

So when you go to the store to buy the latest fashions, think about what you are communicating to the guys you want to impress. Are you telling them that all you want them to know about you is your sex? Or do you want them to know what an incredible young lady you are with hopes and dreams for a future? You are a lady with skills, and talents, and a great personality.   What you wear influences the way guys in your life respond to you.

Jan Sullivan
AprilWord

Jan Sullivan received a Masters Degree in Youth Ministry from Asbury Theological Seminary. She served as a youth pastor for thirteen years in Indiana, Kentucky, and Ohio. She published her first book, Forever Family, in July of 2008. Her second, Never Alone, is due out in September. She lives in Lexington, Kentucky with her dog Abby and spends her time loving teenagers and consuming Christian fiction. Modeling her life after Christ, the great storyteller, Jan hopes that her stories will lead young people to make decisions to follow Christ.

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