So you’ve found the cutest new outfit you want to wear to school. It shows off all your pretty curves and reveals a lot of skin. You know you look good.
You go to school. The teachers have either sent you home because you are revealing too much, or they have told you to put on a jacket or sweater. “It’s not fair!” you say. “Guys can wear anything they want but girls can’t!”
Girls, guys can’t help but see sex in the clothes that you wear. What may be a cute style for you is really a difficult temptation for the guys. Something happens to a guy’s brain and they can no longer focus on what an incredible young lady you are. They no longer are drawn to you because of your personality, your sense of humor, or your intellectual prowess. All they see is your body.
A guy once shared with me that it is hard to have a conversation with a girl when her breasts are staring him in the face. He would rather get to know the girl behind the tank top. But if a girl wants nothing but a physical relationship with a guy, then by all means, wear the skimpy barely there clothing, because he will never get to know the real you.
Females want intimacy. Intimacy requires conversation and getting to know one another. How you dress can effect how well a guy will work to get to know you. In fact, many guys would rather get to know the girl and leave the rest to be discovered at another time.
So when you go to the store to buy the latest fashions, think about what you are communicating to the guys you want to impress. Are you telling them that all you want them to know about you is your sex? Or do you want them to know what an incredible young lady you are with hopes and dreams for a future? You are a lady with skills, and talents, and a great personality. What you wear influences the way guys in your life respond to you.
Jan Sullivan
AprilWord
Jan Sullivan received a Masters Degree in Youth Ministry from Asbury Theological Seminary. She served as a youth pastor for thirteen years in Indiana, Kentucky, and Ohio. She published her first book, Forever Family, in July of 2008. Her second, Never Alone, is due out in September. She lives in Lexington, Kentucky with her dog Abby and spends her time loving teenagers and consuming Christian fiction. Modeling her life after Christ, the great storyteller, Jan hopes that her stories will lead young people to make decisions to follow Christ.
